Yes I did say that, I said “without even trying” – and I meant it. You’ll already have come across those inspirational people who can light up a room and connect with others before they’ve even said anything.
If you’d like to understand how they do it, and learn for yourself what makes them so compelling to work with, fascinating to be around, impossible to ignore, and discover how you can do this too – read on.
I won’t waste your valuable time, so let’s first check whether the information I’m about to share is going to be relevant and useful to you. How many of these statements can you relate to?
- You’ve made a successful career for yourself. You’re well respected, you’re hard-working; you’re in a good position, yet somehow it just isn’t quite enough. You feel there’s something else, something missing.
- People trust you, they regularly come to you for your opinion. Clients, colleagues, business peers. Whilst you’re happy to offer your experience wherever possible, you worry whether it’s really the best advice, or whether you’re the best person to be giving that guidance.
- You inspire people. They see you’ve done well and have a good life. They look to you as a role model. You know you should be feeling good about this, but deep down you’re uncomfortable. These people don’t see the undisclosed part of you that questions your achievements and doubts your ability.
If you’re still reading (and maybe nodding in agreement too) you’re about to discover a little-known fact about the way we connect, and why it’s a game-changer for leaders.
We all know about IQ, it’s our thinking ability. It’s rule based, analytical; it’s about cause and effect. EQ is our emotional intelligence, our feeling. It’s inclusive, engaging; it helps us to understand and act within the expectations of society. SQ moves us beyond boundaries, through expectations and into our limitless capabilities. It’s our deepest sense of knowing.
If you agreed with any of the three earlier statements I made, you’re likely a highly competent professional who has inadvertently diminish your connection with SQ.
I’ll stick my neck out here and suggest that you’re probably doing (or have done) the following over the course of your career:
- You believe it’s important to explore the bigger picture. You weigh up the pros and cons and explore the consequences before deciding.
- You look for the positives in people. You’re generous in your understanding of others and like to give people the benefit of the doubt.
- You find it uncomfortable to accept thanks or praise for what you do. Perhaps you feel you’re just doing your job, or you don’t like the fuss, or perhaps it’s simply that the compliment seems insincere.
I could write about the many reasons why these and so many other accepted corporate behaviours are systematically leading people out of knowing and into doubt. I could also explain in detail about why leading with SQ results in confidence, certainty and success at a much deeper level.
I invite you instead to watch this short video. And if it resonates, or if you have questions, or you’re curious to find out the reasons why I cited the above behaviours as limiting? Email me at mel@melpledger.com and let’s talk.
Thank you for reading this article, thank you for your interest in my work, I look forward to meeting you!
Mel Pledger 
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